I was raised in the religion of Christian Science. Now a Christian Scientist doesnâ€™t exactly believe in faith healingâ€¦but they really do. Basically if you â€œknow the truthâ€ youâ€™ll have a healing. And by â€œknow the truthâ€ I mean you see that God made everything good; so you really canâ€™t be ill.
Now to a Christian Scientist surrounded by other Christian Scientist this all makes sense. You pray â€œknow the truthâ€ and you get better or your situation gets better. This is proof that the prayer worked. You never stop to question this evidence, you pray and you get better. If you donâ€™t get better then you donâ€™t see things clearly enough, you donâ€™t know the truth yet.
This all seems very silly to anyone outside the religion. Just because you pray doesnâ€™t mean you get better. If you do get better it doesnâ€™t mean God had anything to do with it; because sometimes people get better without prayer or doctors. But as a Christian Scientist youâ€™d never see it as a spurious correlation.
People at work have been bitching at me for being too nice when Iâ€™m working on resolving a problem. Itâ€™s the â€œsqueaky wheelâ€ religion. Thatâ€™s how I see it now. If you bitch enough about a problem other people will take notice and fix it for you. But just as the Christian Scientist never stops to consider that people heal without any prayer the SW people would never consider for a second that problems get solved every day without their bitching.
The â€œsqueaky wheelâ€ people bitch and the problem is solved, thatâ€™s all the proof they need. Youâ€™d have just as much success in getting a CS to go to a doctor as you would to convince a SW not to bitch. The CS and SW alike â€œknowâ€ and pity you for not having the understanding/superior knowledge they have.
Neither would ever consider that their actions (or lack of action in reality) only makes the problem at hand worse. That bitching or prayer is really avoiding dealing with the problem directly.
If you are chewing someone out about an issue its probably going to take even longer to resolve than if youâ€™d just asked for an update. The person you just bitched out will need to take a break to get the SW religion out of their head. Youâ€™ll succeed in getting their focus off the issue and onto what an idiot/asshole/dumb-ass, which you are.
In conclusion – address the issue at hand with a logical approach. If you are frustrated, express the frustrationâ€¦but donâ€™t equate the expression as a step in resolving the problem.